Girl Tells All

Before I begin to betray my own sex, I must tell you that women are difficult. I admit it. We are difficult creatures, difficult to understand and to satisfy-but that's only because we are so much more advanced. I mean, think about it, we have our urinary and reproductive system kept separate. You, you guys have them fused. So perchance something malfunctions it's like killing two birds with one stone! I don't believe in evolution, so the only way I can tell you why we're so superior is because God willed it. Yeah, He totally knew the men need to be herded around and be taken care of. You know you can't live without us.

Do What We Mean NOT What We Say

Ahhhh...yes, the signature line of Ms. Crabapple. But it's every bit true! Women never want to tell you what they're truly thinking. When's the last time you asked for her preference and she said "it doesn't matter"? In fact, even before you asked her for her input, she already had an idea of what she wanted. But we like acting democratic or some women just prefer men to take up the job of making choices. So we would say "whatever you like dear." You may see your hunny react negatively to your decision usually through body language and that's when you know you didn't make the choice she hoped for. But have no fear puny males, putting in more time and effort to understand her likes and dislikes will put you in a better spot to make more favorable decisions.

When she says "I'm fine" you should be 99.99% sure that something ISN'T fine. Asking what's wrong doesn't seem to do the trick eh? (But don't get me wrong, that "what's wrong" is not in vain as I will explain later) Prying and nagging on will definitely not put you in good terms with your darling. What you should do is: Read her body language. Acknowledge that something is wrong (NEVER pretend nothing is wrong) so say something like "I know that you're not happy, but we're gonna fix that." Then make her happy by doing whatever you think you know that works and she will automatically open up and tell you what's wrong. Simple eh? I really don't know why the majority of men can't think of this!!

Every Little Thing Counts

I said above that your "what's wrong" plays a crucial role as is the case with many things you say and do that you may find pointless. Women are very keen on details. We notice the smallest things about you, the hints you drop that are oblivous to you. There's a lot to talk about but I want to stress the important. Picture this: You know she's angry/mad/sad. What do you do boys? Ask what's wrong. Good good! But she'll most likely say "nothing" and give you the silent treatment. So you're there wondering why in the world do you need to ask what's wrong if it doesn't better the situation? Well believe me...if you hadn't said that, the sitch would be MUCH MORE catastrophic. What your simple line of concern tells us is exactly that: concern. It shows us that you care and that's very essential to us sensitive females, knowing that we are cared for. So even if we don't react to you, don't worry we got the message, we're just pretending to ignore it in order to keep our ego and prestige.

Take Initiative, It's Sexy

If it's really not important, don't ask us. If it is an important matter, talk to us and we'll give you insight to what your plan of action should be. If it's something regarding dates and dinners, guys this is what you really should do. First, you need listening skills. So if you are a fine dude you'd know which places we want to head out to and what activities we want to do from just listening to us rant on a daily basis. You should also know that we LOVE surprises, so please don't kill the joy of a relationship by asking us where to go, what to eat every time. Sometimes it's ok, but mostly YOU do the planning. Take initiative! Confidence and good organization is attractive. Passiveness is not. So plan a day we would enjoy, but let me heed you that some women like having their own ideas too so be wise as to leave a leeway in your schedule to incorporate something that she may want to do in particular. With that said and done, we will reciprocate the love by also planning something in your favor. <3